UNGAGHUDLUZEKI - Dont Step Aside
They say that good men are hard to find - either taken or gay. Because of this women are selling themselves short and saying things like 'akekho umama owazala ingane wathi lo owakho' (no woman gave birth and said her son will be your man).
Many women have lowered their standards because they feel that their 'mr right' will never come. When all the women in your life have found their significant other, the thought of being single terrifies them that they're even willing to share.
Sharing makes you the other woman, right? Women lie to themselves about how its all just about the sex and spending his money, the no strings attached typa friendship. Unfortunately we all know how women can be. How do you allow yourself to be second best? What about your values and all your mother has instilled in to be a better woman?
Being the other woman can be an exciting experience - the sneaking around like high school kids, going to secret locations and just letting loose. The sad reality is that he will walk away with something from this experience. He will have a hold over you and he couldn't be bothered, you can convince yourself otherwise. He gets to boast to his friends about what a great side chick you are. When he goes back to his Queen Bee, you're all alone and thinking what a great man he is and how lucky she is and start wondering how you ended up in this situation.
Its all fun and games until the main woman finds out. How can you just forget about the unwritten sisterhood code and hope that she'll understand because 'he's a man'? She wont hesitate to teach you a lesson however way she feels suits you - ask Mam'Ruby.
Side chicks have always and will always be around. Be confident in yourself and your relationship. Trust your man and mark your territory. Don't allow anyone to underestimate you. Ungaghudluzeki! You were there from the beginning and worked hard to be where the both of you are now. Women need to know their self worth and not tolerate nonsense - UNGAGHUDLUZEKI!
PS: this doesn't mean that men should sit back and do as they please because their women got their backs. We won't be around forever and when we leave, we leave for good!
Live Laugh Love
@andypouts - twitter
Many women have lowered their standards because they feel that their 'mr right' will never come. When all the women in your life have found their significant other, the thought of being single terrifies them that they're even willing to share.
Sharing makes you the other woman, right? Women lie to themselves about how its all just about the sex and spending his money, the no strings attached typa friendship. Unfortunately we all know how women can be. How do you allow yourself to be second best? What about your values and all your mother has instilled in to be a better woman?
Being the other woman can be an exciting experience - the sneaking around like high school kids, going to secret locations and just letting loose. The sad reality is that he will walk away with something from this experience. He will have a hold over you and he couldn't be bothered, you can convince yourself otherwise. He gets to boast to his friends about what a great side chick you are. When he goes back to his Queen Bee, you're all alone and thinking what a great man he is and how lucky she is and start wondering how you ended up in this situation.
Its all fun and games until the main woman finds out. How can you just forget about the unwritten sisterhood code and hope that she'll understand because 'he's a man'? She wont hesitate to teach you a lesson however way she feels suits you - ask Mam'Ruby.
Side chicks have always and will always be around. Be confident in yourself and your relationship. Trust your man and mark your territory. Don't allow anyone to underestimate you. Ungaghudluzeki! You were there from the beginning and worked hard to be where the both of you are now. Women need to know their self worth and not tolerate nonsense - UNGAGHUDLUZEKI!
PS: this doesn't mean that men should sit back and do as they please because their women got their backs. We won't be around forever and when we leave, we leave for good!
Live Laugh Love
@andypouts - twitter
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